Children and the internet: How to navigate this modern minefield

Loving, open communication is key to raising kids who know how to safely navigate online spaces. Photo / 123rf
The internet isn’t going anywhere, so how can we ensure our kids stay safe online and benefit from using it?
The United States’ most senior public health official, surgeon-general Vivek Murthy, believes social media platforms should come with warning labels.
The United Nations’ education, science and culture agency says smartphones should be banned in schools. Chinese regulators are pushing to limit children’s smartphone use to just two hours a day.
These are just a few high profile examples of growing global concerns about the risks young people face when using the internet. Those worries are backed by a large, global body of research. Social media use has been linked to feelings of envy, depression and anxiety among young people all over the world, including those in African countries.
This evidence can make for depressing reading, especially if you’re the parent or caregiver of a teenager. Many may be tempted to confiscate their teens’ cellphones, lock away their tablets and keep them as far away from the internet as possible. But that’s neither practical nor helpful in a hyper-connected, digital world.
Though we come from different academic disciplines as a children’s rights researcher, a moral philosopher and a clinical researcher, our current work focuses on the same thing: the ethics of new and emerging technologies and their impact.
We know that protecting children is a shared responsibility. Government, service providers and education systems all have a role to play. But parents are key. So, drawing from our ongoing research, we have three messages for parents trying to navigate this modern minefield.
One, the internet and social media are not all bad for children. Some online spaces may even help young people to manage their mental health.
Two, children and teens have rights to access information, share their views and have those views respected.
Three, by creating a strong foundation of open, loving and trusting communication, you help your children navigate the risks, identify the ethical pitfalls and enjoy the benefits of social media platforms.
While it is true that internet use comes with risks, there’s also evidence that it can benefit young people.
For instance, interactive features and user-generated content platforms such as social media, blogs and forums enable social interaction and connection. These online spaces allow children to engage with peers, share interests and build communities. They also provide outlets for creativity and self-expression, helping kids to develop digital literacy skills and shape their identities.
Some internet spaces may help children and teens to manage their mental health. The Covid pandemic accelerated the development of digital mental health services like free platforms that connect children to counsellors, chat bots, text tools and apps that offer support for children and parents. Childline South Africa’s free online chat service is one example.
Too many societies and communities forget that children, like adults, have rights.
In South Africa, for instance, children’s rights are enshrined in section 28 of the constitution.
Globally, the Convention on the Rights of Children (which was adopted by the United Nations General Assembly in 1989) guarantees children’s rights to access information, to freedom of association, to share their thoughts freely and to have their views respected, to health, including mental health, and to privacy, non-discrimination, protection, education and play.
More recently, the United Nations issued guidance on children’s rights in the digital environment.
Several countries (among them Australia, Brazil, Canada, China and the UK) now have online safety legislation aimed at protecting kids and teens.
Some parents may wonder why all countries don’t simply make laws to reduce the risks posed by social media platforms. The reality is that it is difficult to implement and enforce these regulations.
African countries have been slow to regulate online safety for minors. South Africa is working on a white paper that aims to protect children from harmful content and ensure that content meets their needs. However, it is still a draft; new legislation and regulation are years away.
But there is no need for parents to wait before starting to teach their children how to safely use the internet.
Some parents may fear they don’t have the skills and knowledge to properly support their teens. Just remember that parents find their way around new things all the time: setting boundaries for young children, teaching them to read and write, and, later on, managing adolescent mood swings, discussing sexuality or counselling teens through their first heartbreaks.
When it comes to safe internet navigation and use, parents and caregivers can help children in two main ways.
The first is by prioritising open, trusting and loving communication from when your children are young. Since children are constantly developing, the kinds of things you discuss will shift over time. You can start talking about the internet and social media when you think your children are ready. This will differ from child to child.
The second is to develop their critical thinking skills so they can analyse and evaluate information and arguments in a clear, rational and objective manner. Parents and caregivers can encourage children to ask questions, challenge assumptions and explore different ways of seeing things. There are also programmes like Web Rangers that help children to develop these skills so they can become responsible digital citizens.
Children who can think critically will gain the confidence to rely on their own reasoning rather than just unthinkingly adopting others’ attitudes. These skills will help them to make responsible choices.
Spending time building a trusting relationship with your children is also crucial. Parenting for a digital future goes beyond the fear-driven response of regulating screen time and parental policing. Critical capacity is developed through negotiation and engagement. And of course these skills are universally applicable, protecting children in other aspects of their lives, too.
Lucy Jamieson is a senior researcher at the Children’s Institute at the University of Cape Town. Heiid Matisonn is a senior lecturer in bioethics in the Department of Medicine at the University of Cape Town. Wakithi Mabaso is a medical doctor and postgraduate student in epidemiology and clinical neurosciences at the University of Oxford.
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